Easy? Hard? Who has it easier?

Well since it's been about a few weeks or so since my last post of everyone's favorite topic (once again this blog is not entirely about women so new and old readers don't get the wrong impression of what I write my posts on). But recently I've been watching a lot of romance/comedy/school life anime. It has come to my attention as to in this crazy existence we call life when it comes to love who has it easier? What I mean is for example for some guys it is absolutely terrifying to approach a girl that they like and tell her how they honestly feel about her. Now on the flip side (and one that I have learned about generally from watching tons and tons of anime) it is the exact opposite as well, in addition to making a man like me say "awww, thats so cute" by seeing how awkward she reacts around the guy she is interested in and attempting to woo him with homemade lunches or walking home with him. But that is my question that I pose to both male and female readers. Who has it easier when it comes to these kinds of things?

Now I've learned in my travels both as a student and as a ninja, that on the guy's side that a godly man should strive to be the leader for the woman that he loves. I'm not saying that this is hard (but it is definitely an honorable thing to strive for), but you can see how much a man must strive for to win the heart of the woman he loves. On the flip side I'm pretty sure spiritually you girls must have it just as difficult if not more. Now here is my disclaimer: I am about to really rant about some of the things that make me want to vomit when it comes to romance and I'm going to be brutally honest so if you don't want to read it skip ahead to the next paragraph but I'm sure you're going to read it anyways, but don't say I didn't warn you. Society is really shallow, I mean so shallow to the point where I hate the thing called American media. Everything is "Cupcake Land" when the media portrays love. For instance: guy/girl meets opposite sex, said couple share time together (for what seems like every minute of thier life) and everything is happy happy, love love. Oh but it gets even better said couple then share first kiss, followed by them sleeping together (OMG HENTAI!!!). Now tell me you haven't seen this in several hundred shows on television right now, and if you haven't I challenge you to Mortal Kombat (just no fatalities). This in and of itself is not what your everyday young adult runs into when it comes to love. Then again you have to understand our culture where sex sells and everything is idealistic (but that could be said even with anime as well). I can write something better than said scenario above, I call it my life. When you live in a society where 41 women don't want to date you because your facebook profile pic is from an anime, is clearly an indication that society is shallow. No I don't find the girls that my social profile ask me whether or not I would like to date them based on thier picture is much like buying a used car based upon a picture that the seller posted on the day they picked it up from the lot ten years ago.

End rant: geeze all that ranting made me forget where I was going with all this. Anyways call me judgemental but you can see how much stress society puts on both men and women when it comes to constructing an ideal relationship. Based upon what society puts on men it's get that girl now because eventually if you wait too long she'll either get old or find some other guy (usually a rich shallow guy). Girls, doll yourself up (but not to the point of that of a prostitute, oops that should have gone in the last paragraph) because guys are so dumb and so visually motivated that if they don't notice they are not worth your affection. In reality society makes relationships hard, dates are based on money and love boils down to looks. So if I had to say from my point of view love is difficult for guys, for girls getting a guy to know that she likes him is hard and for society relationships are hard for both men and women. I can't talk on the difficulty from a girl's point of view or society's (I just ranted about it so no more of that). In all honesty from my view and my bias as a guy, I feel that it's difficult for guys in relationships. We try so hard to make a girl happy, but at the same time we are tempted by things like sex and trying to be sensitive to our other's feelings because to us some relationships may not be permanent. But in a society that says live it up, it's difficult. But at the same time people also say that women aren't figurines that should be put on a pedestal and be loved that way. I know that feeling well, I feel the same way about my interest the same way. From my personal view love and relationships should be innocent and sweet, yes this all sounds like "Cupcake Land" too but hear me out. Things like this two people should be truly happy together, the things that society expects from them do not matter to them in fact they are oblivious to them. They would laugh together, smile together, cry together; there would be pain and struggles though but the two would realize that, but it wouldn't get in the way of how they feel for each other. But like I said life makes that difficult to attain, even for guys we're raised to see the ugliness and foolishness of dreams like this. I bet if I said this to any guy I know they'd beat me up or laugh in my face. All I can do is hope that I may share in this dream one day.

In conclusion I came up with something that perhaps all single guys can do if they struggle with feelings such as this. Be a blessing to a girl first, simply be there for her talk with her, help her with simple things even if they sound stupid, tedious or silly. In this way actions speak loudier than words, if she notices your willingness to help or simply being there for her she'll know how you feel because girls aren't stupid like guys. Even if she doesn't feel the same way, you'll be someone she trusts and between you and me trust is just as good as her saying she likes you. That is what I strive to be and it'll be difficult, but it won't stand in my way.