Praise
Well its been an interesting summer. I've hit a landmark 100 posts in this time period (although a majority of them being about my third pitch idea or about random stuff). But anyways heres something thats been on my mind as of late.
Its about receiving praise from others. I'm pretty sure all of us whether young or old all want to hear words of praise from others. I'm not saying that praise is a bad thing oh no, its just that I'd like to take a look at it from my perspective. Growing up people have always been critical of me, whether it be from instructors, my parents or my fellow classmates. All through out my career in junior high and high school I usually ended up being the verbal punching bag of the campus. I vividly remember on one in-class essay for my 10th grade English class that I ended up getting a "C" on; my teacher wrote and I quote "good job, your lack of textual support really hurt your grade". It was a rather interesting comment, I really didn't know whether it was a suggestion or insult. Anyways I usually recieved praise from my parents (so life during high school wasn't all that bad). But you know parents are parents, depending on what kind of relationship you have with them you can almost feel that parents will always be proud of you; so sometimes you don't know if they're just saying it to make you feel better about yourself.
So with all these things happening to me its kind of hard for me to recieve praise for somethings. Like whenever I cook things for others and they tell me that its good I can honestly say that it makes me feel awkward at times. I don't know what to say sometimes, I've been insulted and picked apart by people so much that hearing something nice come from someone else's mouth is strange. I also can't give words of encouragement to others too. Like I mentioned earlier growing up with people who have always insulted me (my 10th grade English teacher) I just don't know what to say to encourage people. So when people ecourage me or praise me about things I usually ask myself, how can I recieve all these nice things people are saying to me when I can't praise others myself?
People can say that its a guy thing that guys sometimes can't give encouragement because some of them have higher standards that others, but I'm not like that. I just like to thank those that have given me words of praise or encouragement and I hope that one day that this is one scar on my heart that will heal over time and I'll be able to give praise and encouragement to others one day.
Its about receiving praise from others. I'm pretty sure all of us whether young or old all want to hear words of praise from others. I'm not saying that praise is a bad thing oh no, its just that I'd like to take a look at it from my perspective. Growing up people have always been critical of me, whether it be from instructors, my parents or my fellow classmates. All through out my career in junior high and high school I usually ended up being the verbal punching bag of the campus. I vividly remember on one in-class essay for my 10th grade English class that I ended up getting a "C" on; my teacher wrote and I quote "good job, your lack of textual support really hurt your grade". It was a rather interesting comment, I really didn't know whether it was a suggestion or insult. Anyways I usually recieved praise from my parents (so life during high school wasn't all that bad). But you know parents are parents, depending on what kind of relationship you have with them you can almost feel that parents will always be proud of you; so sometimes you don't know if they're just saying it to make you feel better about yourself.
So with all these things happening to me its kind of hard for me to recieve praise for somethings. Like whenever I cook things for others and they tell me that its good I can honestly say that it makes me feel awkward at times. I don't know what to say sometimes, I've been insulted and picked apart by people so much that hearing something nice come from someone else's mouth is strange. I also can't give words of encouragement to others too. Like I mentioned earlier growing up with people who have always insulted me (my 10th grade English teacher) I just don't know what to say to encourage people. So when people ecourage me or praise me about things I usually ask myself, how can I recieve all these nice things people are saying to me when I can't praise others myself?
People can say that its a guy thing that guys sometimes can't give encouragement because some of them have higher standards that others, but I'm not like that. I just like to thank those that have given me words of praise or encouragement and I hope that one day that this is one scar on my heart that will heal over time and I'll be able to give praise and encouragement to others one day.
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